Excerpted this from an article on Brain Pickings today on how relationships help us refine our truths by Adrienne Rich.
I deeply echoed with it because it lends itself to my belief that a relationship (especially those between partners and spouses) is two people holding up a mirror to each other to help them grow. Something I feel I am susceptible to forget in the process of buying the groceries and paying the bills.
This also links back to something I read a coupla days ago on the changing needs in a relationship. In a nutshell the article (http://dsoulcafe.wordpress.com/2014/10/22/the-shifting-relationship-needs/) talks about how the nature of our relationship needs to keep up with us as we move up the hierarchy of needs. An interesting and thought provoking insight, I thought, into a conversation I have had with numerous women I know, who feel the need for a deeper and more meaningful engagement in a relationship. Look it up and tell me what you think.
You can also find and read the whole piece on Adrienne Rich at http://www.brainpickings.org/2013/07/02/adrienne-rich-honorable-human-relationship/
An honorable human relationship — that is, one in which two people have the right to use the word “love” — is a process, delicate, violent, often terrifying to both persons involved, a process of refining the truths they can tell each other.
It is important to do this because it breaks down human self-delusion and isolation.
It is important to do this because in doing so we do justice to our own complexity.
It is important to do this because we can count on so few people to go that hard way with us.
I deeply echoed with it because it lends itself to my belief that a relationship (especially those between partners and spouses) is two people holding up a mirror to each other to help them grow. Something I feel I am susceptible to forget in the process of buying the groceries and paying the bills.
This also links back to something I read a coupla days ago on the changing needs in a relationship. In a nutshell the article (http://dsoulcafe.wordpress.com/2014/10/22/the-shifting-relationship-needs/) talks about how the nature of our relationship needs to keep up with us as we move up the hierarchy of needs. An interesting and thought provoking insight, I thought, into a conversation I have had with numerous women I know, who feel the need for a deeper and more meaningful engagement in a relationship. Look it up and tell me what you think.
You can also find and read the whole piece on Adrienne Rich at http://www.brainpickings.org/2013/07/02/adrienne-rich-honorable-human-relationship/
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